Today, I found myself in an unexpected emotional moment at the doctor's office, and it all revolved around the topic of weddings and the upcoming holidays. A nurse noticed my engagement ring and struck up a conversation about my wedding plans. The question of how many guests I expected came up. With a big family and the loss of my sister earlier this year, I thought it would be a good time to gather everyone for a celebration.
Then, the nurse asked how I was holding up with the holidays approaching. I thought I was managing well, but suddenly, tears filled my eyes. I felt embarrassed because I’m not usually one to cry in public. But the truth is, the holidays can be incredibly tough. We all have these grand expectations fueled by the idyllic scenes we see in Hallmark movies—everything works out perfectly, love abounds, and life feels magical.
This leads to an expectation versus reality gap that can be hard to navigate. Yes, the holidays are a time of joy, but when you place so much pressure on yourself to feel happy and make everything perfect, the reality often falls short of those lofty expectations. It’s a recipe for disappointment.
So, how do we enjoy the holiday season without being weighed down by these unrealistic expectations? Here’s what I’ve discovered: releasing those expectations is key. Instead, focus on being present in the moment and allowing yourself to have fun without the pressure to feel a certain way.
As much as I adore the Hallmark Channel and the holiday romance it brings, those are just fantasies. They’re delightful, but they can set us up for failure if we expect our own lives to mirror them.
So as we approach this holiday season, remember: you don’t have to be happy and jolly all the time. Just be yourself, let go of the pressure, and focus on enjoying the moments that come your way. It’s about finding joy in the chaos, laughter in the imperfections, and warmth in the company of loved ones.
Let’s embrace the holidays for what they are—an opportunity to connect with others, share our stories, and create memories that don’t rely on perfection. Take a deep breath, allow yourself to feel, and most importantly, be present. That’s the true magic of the season.
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